482 Reasons to Shelter Your Children From Society
February 16, 2008
Thank you, Cris, for your comments. As far as labeling our blogs… I think it would get really confusing if our blogs were both named the same thing, don’t you? I am sorry to hear about your pain - it must hurt to be as astute as you seem to be. I think we actually homeschool for 3 weeks per year though. You are right that things would probably be worse if we sent our kids to public school. I am sure you would know. ;)
Thanks again,
Jeff
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Comment:
You should label your blogs 482 reasons to shelter your children from society. Because it is PAINFULLY obvious that your wife does not home school those kids more than 1-2 weeks a year and when she does we get to hear about how horrible they are and how they have FAS but are getting no treatment or counseling for it. Good thing they don’t go to public school, that would make everything worse.
February 16th, 2008 at 7:33 pm
Cris said “…PAINFULLY obvious that your wife does not home school those kids more than 1-2 weeks a year…”
You know, because we blog about *everything* that happens everyday here. And Cris, the expert on FAS, would you like to point me toward a counselor that is an expert in correcting *brain damage*. DUH!!
February 16th, 2008 at 8:32 pm
Don’t worry about what people like that say. They’re just trying to get a reaction out of you.
February 16th, 2008 at 8:44 pm
I am not worried about it. If I was, I wouldn’t be blogging. ;)
February 16th, 2008 at 9:03 pm
I think it is “painfully obvious” that Cris has no idea what a true education is. Otherwise, Cris would be a homeschooler. ;-)
February 16th, 2008 at 9:07 pm
As if FAS can be “treated” or counseled away…I worked in special education for many years before home schooling and that idea is as foolish as any I have ever heard.
February 16th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
Now wait a minute, Cris, don’t get our roles reversed. Homeschoolers are supposed to be judgmental, not public school fans. You’re going to confuse everyone with your strong statements.
I love your email address tho. Very cute. I’d love to see more of those, but a little more creative next time. Crazy is overdone.
February 16th, 2008 at 11:39 pm
Painfully obvious? LoL :)
February 17th, 2008 at 7:50 am
Cris, I would suggest that you consider a course in reading comprehension. Katie has discussed both attachment issues and FAS. While it is true that counseling can sometimes help with RAD, there are no counseling or treatment options for FAS/FAE.
If you’ve discovered a treatment or therapy, I’m sure we’d all like to know about it.
Perhaps, you are referring to therapy for the parents of children with FAS/FAE. I have had a couple of visits with a psycholigist that were quite educational and helpful. The therapist was very clear when she explained that FAS was permanent and not treatable. She also suggested a number of ways for me, as a parent, to cope with the difficulties in raising children with FAS.
One of those ways was to network with other parents. Katie’s blog is great for that. I get new ideas and inspiration and it helps me to see that other people’s FAS kids are so much like mine.
You also need to know that when my children were in therapy for RAD, their therapists felt that public school would make things much worse.
So Cris, take some time to learn to read better and then do some research on FAS/FAE and RAD. Next, foster a couple of kids with FAS and RAD and try out your theories. If you make it through the first year, come back and tell us just how well it worked for you. We’re always looking for educated suggestions.
Barbara T.
February 17th, 2008 at 8:20 am
Thankfully people come along to comment to remind us of whom the society is that we are sheltering our kids from :)
February 17th, 2008 at 10:06 am
FAS can be treated? Counseled away? Good grief - point me in the direction of these miracle workers - I have been engaging in Chinese Water Torture all these years when I could have had Cris’s experts solve all my problems? lol
It is specifically because of my kids “brain damage” inflicted by bio-parents who were ignorant (yes, I do mean ignorant) to the effects of drinking and drugs while pregnant with their little blessings that I decided I must home school. and shelter them from the ugliness of christian school, public school and charter school (don’t ever tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about - I tried EVERYTHING to help my kids) I wish I would have done it way….sooner with my older kids because I could have had so much more joy in my life all these years.
We only home school a few weeks per year too!! What a coincidence! We tell the kids it’s more though since they forget everything the next day anyway. LOL
February 17th, 2008 at 5:33 pm
I have to say I think the sarcasm–both from the initial commenter and the responses to her comment is sad. We pride (maybe not the right word) ourselves on educating our children at home to protect them and make them more Christlike, yet I think Christ is probably very disappointed with this exchange.
February 17th, 2008 at 6:00 pm
Jen-
Maybe you pride yourself on making your kids more Christlike, but I can’t claim any rights to that myself. That’s something only Christ, himself, can do in my kids lives. In the meantime, Cris came to an open forum spewing venom, the least she can expect in return is a little sarcasm. I believe even Jesus used a measure of sarcasm at times. I see no outright hatred or even ugliness here, only people pointing out that her comments are not only rude, but completely foundless. If she came with intelligent, helpful conversation, I’m sure she’d have received a warmer welcome. As it is, I have to wonder why she even reads here.
As I read the responses to her comment, I got a good chuckle. I, too, have children with FAS/FAE. Katie’s right, it’s not something that can be “counseled” away, and to live with it is very frustrating–on a good day. So, excuse all of us who find it laughable and somewhat offensive that people who don’t have a clue take it upon themselves to criticize and belittle what we do, then have the gall to give advice about what we should be doing.
February 17th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
Jen -
I understand what you’re saying about the sarcasm - I’m totally guilty and responsible for what I say. I don’t know if you actually have children with FAS/FASD/RAD, etc. but sometimes the only thing that gets me through (besides prayer of course) is joking about it. I try to find the humor in things they do because if I don’t, I really may lose it one day. I found myself crying over every crazy little thing my kids were doing and falling into quite a little depression. This is my way of coping. I’m sorry if it offends you, I’m sure God understands my intentions, even if no one else does.
February 17th, 2008 at 7:16 pm
Lori,
And your response to me wasn’t ugly and sarcastic???? We don’t homeschool our children and I have to say that if this is what homeschooling children are learning from their parents, I know we’ve made the right choice. Unbelievable.
February 17th, 2008 at 7:33 pm
Here’s another reason to homeschool. This happened where I live.
Arizona parents ask children about man who passed himself off as 12-year-old
By Amanda Lee Myers
The Associated Press
Neil Havens Rodreick II was convicted as a sex offender in Oklahoma in 1996.
SURPRISE, Ariz. — Experts on child exploitation are all too familiar with sex offenders working as Scout leaders, coaches and teachers, but this was a new one — a boyish-looking man who posed as a 12-year-old and enrolled in school in what may have been a scheme to find kids to molest.
Now parents in this Phoenix suburb where 29-year-old Neil Havens Rodreick II attended a charter school for four months are asking their children if they had any contact with this “classmate.”
And police are interviewing parents, students and teachers, and checking at least three other Arizona schools where Rodreick, a convicted sex offender from Oklahoma, also enrolled.
Rodreick — who is about 5 feet 6 and 120 pounds, and who shaved his body hair and used makeup in an attempt to cover his stubble — has been charged with forgery and fraud in the school-enrollment con, as well as assault against a girl. Investigators have refused to release details of that crime and will not say whether he met the girl through the school scam.
Officials also said Thursday that a search of the home where he was staying yielded a video of Rodreick engaging in sex acts with an unidentified child.
Using the name Casey Price, Rodreick attended the Imagine School from August to November as a seventh-grader before being thrown out for poor attendance. Investigators said he was caught when he attended school for a day last week in Chino Valley, about 90 miles from Phoenix.
On Jan. 9, Rodreick enrolled as Casey Price at YCFA Achieve Academy, a charter school in Prescott Valley, about 75 miles from Phoenix, said Amy Rezzonico, a spokeswoman for the Arizona Department of Education. It was unclear whether he attended school there, and officials at the school declined to comment Thursday.
Rodreick also was enrolled at a charter school as a seventh-grader named Casey Rodreick for a few weeks in 2005 in Payson, about 65 miles from Phoenix.
Detective George Ratliff of the Gila County Sheriff’s Office said there is no evidence any children at the Payson school were victimized.
Kenneth Lanning, who helped investigate child sex crimes as an agent with the FBI’s Behavioral Science Unit for 30 years, said he has never heard of an adult successfully pretending to be a child so young and enrolling in school.
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Rodreick, who is in jail, declined a request for an interview.
In 1996, he was convicted in Oklahoma of lewdly propositioning a 6-year-old boy. He served about six years in prison.
Rhonda Cagle, a spokeswoman for the Imagine School, said no students have come forward to accuse Rodreick of molesting them.
“This individual stood out in our pickup line every day right with all of our other students. Parents walked by, students walk by, staff walked by,” she said. “There was no questions or concerns by anybody that were ever raised with our administration team here in regards to this individual, so I would certainly say he blended in quite well.”
The school did not realize it had been
February 17th, 2008 at 7:55 pm
I would like to apologize for my last comment. I reacted and stooped to the same level of the people that were so disappointing to me. I apologize again. I tried to delete it all together but could not.
February 18th, 2008 at 12:07 am
Jen, although I agree with you that sarcasm is not the best evangelism tool, I think you may have misinterpreted Lori’s comment to you. The way I understood Lori’s comment was that it was just an explanation as to why her other comment contained sarcasm. I didn’t pick up any ugliness or sarcasm directed to you. Perhaps you misinterpreted the last paragraph to be directed at you? I think she was just explaining why the original poster’s ignorant comment about FAS children being counselled is frustrating to read for a mom who actually lives with the reality of FAS. I don’t think she was calling you critical or belittling.
February 18th, 2008 at 8:11 am
Jen~
You said in your post, “We pride (maybe not the right word) ourselves on educating our children at home to protect them and make them more Christlike…”
From your use of “we,” I took your post to mean that you, too, homeschooled. It doesn’t really matter whether or not you do homeschool, but I just wanted you to know why I misunderstood you.
You also said, “I would like to apologize for my last comment. I reacted and stooped to the same level of the people that were so disappointing to me.”
I guess I’m not sure what you were reacting to. My comments were strictly about Cris. I felt like I wanted to “clear the air” about why we, parents of children with FAS/FAE would resort to sarcasm. I just felt like those who had responded earlier most likely felt the same frustrations and disbelief that I did upon reading her comments and I wanted to explain a little, to you, why sarcasm was not only a likely retort, but also somewhat appropriate in this case.
I’m sorry that you are “disappointed” in those of us who “stoop” to using sarcasm as a means of communicating with someone who verbally attacks our friends. I did not intend my post to be at all “ugly and sarcastic” to you, only informative from a FAS/FAE parent’s standpoint.
I hope you will re-read my post with that in mind–or on second thought, you may want to just forget the whole thing.
But, one word I would like to add. In reference to your comment, “I reacted and stooped to the same level of the people that were so disappointing to me.”
Jen, I just want you to be aware that if you are looking to other Christians for Christ-like-ness, you will ALWAYS be disappointed. Look to Christ alone. The rest of us are so imperfect, we don’t even deserve to bear his name. So often we, as Christians, fail to reach the mark. Even when we are trying to do good, we offend or hurt others in the process. You can’t use other Christians as a measuring stick, or even put your hopes or expectations in them, they will let you down every time. Christ is the only one who won’t.
That said, I’m not trying to use that as a “cover” so I can say or do whatever I want. I DO want to reflect Christ–in word and deed. But I can honestly say that nothing I said causes me to feel that I defamed Christ’s name in any way. I’m sorry you interpreted it that way.
Sincerely,
Lori in KY
February 18th, 2008 at 8:32 am
While I don’t really agree with Cris’s way of stating his concerns, I do share some of them. The tone in which you and your wife talk about your adopted children vs. the biological ones is very different. You seem to have labeled the adopted ones as unteachable because of the FAS, while you never cease to praise the biologiocal ones. That is not a healthy way of raising a blended family. Mind you, this is not an atttack, just a concerned observation. I have personal friends with adopted children that went through similar ordeals as yours, and those kids get all the therapies they need and are thriving…. yes, they will always have some problems, but they have a better chance than being as isolated as your children seem to be.
February 18th, 2008 at 8:39 am
Jen said, “I reacted and stooped to the same level of the people that were so disappointing to me.”
Boy, that’s a condescending attitude. Thanks Jen.
February 18th, 2008 at 9:01 am
Ana, Where is your blog so I can criticize how you represent your children? Are you so out of touch with realty that you don’t realize that a blog doesn’t show everything about a family? Btw, we live in Ozark, MO if you’d like to stop by and see the truth someday.
February 18th, 2008 at 9:49 am
Katie,
I don’t parade my children publicly on the net or elswhere….You, see this is exactly the response I was expecting from you, sadly.
February 18th, 2008 at 11:03 am
Ana, Your children never go out in public? And you say our kids are isolated?
February 18th, 2008 at 11:42 am
Just because the Bettendorf’s aren’t taking pictures every day of their children bent over a school book doesn’t mean they aren’t homeschooling them. I have a blog and we homeschool, but I usually blog about fun things, or post pictures of places we go or when the kids are playing. Yet we do school every day…ok almost every day. :)
Sometimes I worry people will have the wrong impression of what we do all day as well. Sorry, but you must know that the small snippet you see on a blog isn’t all that has happened all day long.
~Becky
February 18th, 2008 at 3:32 pm
I have a “blended through adoption” family, too. My adopted children, though quite drug exposed, are not FAS. I have worked extensively with children with FAS and FAE. They are completely different than typical children. They are truly brain-damaged, even though they don’t look like it and they struggle to learn *and retain* the smallest task. Have you seen “Groundhog Day”? Teaching a child with FAS is similar to that. You teach, repeat, teach, repeat, and can’t expect them to wake the next morning knowing what it is you taught yesterday.
I am blessed that my adopted children haven’t the issues that many do. My oldest son has some mild learning disabilities, my younger son has kidney disease, and my daughter has developmental issues, due to malnutrition and severe Failure To Thrive. She didn’t sit up until a year and didn’t walk until she was two. She doesn’t speak much, and won’t make a sound around strangers at all. She’s talking in two word phrases consistently and we’re happy about it. She finally potty trained at four. She is turning six next week and knows only two letters, but she can count to 10!
Am I labeling her and being hateful of her if I mention my struggle to help her talk? Do I consider her unteachable because she doesn’t do one single thing without being taught it step by step one hundred thousand times and it drives me crazy sometimes? No, I just teach it again, like the Bettendorfs, and celebrate when she finally retains it!
Ana, do you people go to a diabetics blog and criticize them for their struggle to control their blood sugar? Do you go to the blog of a parent of a blind child and chide them for trying to help their child adapt to the sighted world? Why do you criticize Katie and Jeff for realistically portraying the struggle of helping an FAS child live in a world that doesn’t make sense to them?
I know many people who are in the trenches appreciate the honesty with which Jeff and Katie blog. As many others have said, if you don’t like a blog you’re reading and how the family lives, DON’T READ IT!
Respectfully,
Mommaofmany
February 18th, 2008 at 3:45 pm
Ugh. I’m really mad right now so I probably shouldn’t be posting, but sometimes people are just ignorant. Katie and Jeff love ALL their children unconditionally. I think you just read what you want to. If Junie were an adopted child and Katie posted about how she likes to eat her corn one kernal at a time you would have said she was complaining about her. ALL of their children are well mannered, well behaved and fun to be around. Believe me, you know NOTHING of a person’s real life from their blog. I have met other bloggers IRL and let me tell you, they put their best foot forward on the net because I never want to see them again!
Nobody has said “you shouldn’t post about Jillie’s cancer or the treatments that are working for you”. What is the difference between one illness or another? These are broken children. That’s just a fact. Jeff and Katie didn’t break them. It’s not their fault. They don’t need counseling and if that’s what you think would make them better, then get more educated. They need two parents who love them in a stable home. And that is what they get.
And as Momma said, I appreciate people who do not sugar coat real life. That is of no use to me. If you are not getting anything encouraging or uplifting to you here, why are you here?
February 18th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
First, I would like to say how much I admire you for adding to your family through adoption, mainly special needs adoption. I also have an adopted daughter with FAS, she was added to my family at age 3 when my next youngest child was 14. Also my parents became foster parents when I was a teenager and just retired last year after having over 250 children in a span of 30 years. Their foster care experience became a family affair with their adult children(in fact my adopted daughter was one of their foster children), so I do have first hand knowledge of many issues although I definetely do not consider myself an expert on any of them.
I also admire all of you who homeschool. I think this is a wonderful thing to do for your children. But I also feel that it is not an option for everyone nor should everyone homeschool their children. Some people, myself included, are just not able to handle the responsibility, but that does not make us bad parents. I don’t feel I would be able to do my children justice. My three children who have graduated from high school are doing very well, none of them were shot or abused in any way in our school system. I respect the school system in my town. My children have sung Christian songs at Christmas time and in programs, my daughter’s elementary school is overcrowded and starting next year will be renting space in a nearby Catholic church for a couple of grades. They also allow churches to rent from them for their services. I know this is irrevelent but I want to show how it is possible to to work together. Katie, I think where Cris is coming from with her comments about your homeschooling comes from comments in your journal. You recently commented about not homeschooling since Jodi(who is a doll, by the way) was born. Also not too long ago there was many months that you did not school during your move and there have been other references to intending to do school and instead doing other things. I understand that there are many ways for children to learn besides books but there needs to be a balance. Also children do need social exposure outside of the family while they are still children and we are able to guide them and monitor their activities. It’s not possible to wait until they are adults, even with the best of backgrounds they still have to go through certain emotions and experiences and then as adults they will basically be on their own because it would not be fair to them to be hovering over them at that time. Having brothers and sisters is great and the perfect companions for a lifetime but I highly doubt that siblings will provide their only companionship as adults. It doesn’t seem like your older children are getting any social experience outside the family while you can still guide and monitor them closely. It doesn’t hurt to be a part of a youth group or a sport. Again these are my thoughts and I certainly don’t consider myself an expert.
My daughter is 10 and has FAS. Her mother admitted in court to being drunk every day of her pregnancy so there is no doubt of the diagnosis in addition to the physical signs. She of course has many of the same issues that I’m sure some of your children and others out therehave. She has difficulties with learning, math being the worst. She is impulsive, lies and doesn’t know many boundries. We have had here in counseling since last July and has been making marvelous improvements. She is conscienstly thinking about what she is doing more often and is making the right choice often. Not that I don’t pull my hair out on a daily basis, though. She is involved in a community children’s choir, an annual summer theatre production, Girl Scouts and a dance team. She is thriving at this point but I am painfully aware that this could change at any time. On her most recent report card we had to overlook most of the grades and concentrate on the comment section of the citizenship section where the teacher said she was the best citizen in the class and thanked her for being an example for the other kids. I am sure you are thinking, as her father and I did, boy what is the rest of the class like if an FAS kid is the best citizen, but I don’t think that is totally the case. I have a foster sister who is 22 and has lived with my parents since birth. She also has FAS. We consider her a success story because she is living on her own, holding down the same job for the last 18 months, does not drink or do drugs and has never been in trouble with the law. She has been in counseling for many years. I am only giving this information to show that while it does not make everything perfect, please don’t consider counseling for FAS children useless. FAS does cause irreversible brain damage but by working together with professionals there is some hope that the child can learn ways to compensate in some areas.
I think it serves no purpose for either side of the homeschool debate to bash each other. There is a place for everyone. After all the shootings are now happening at the college level and I don’t think you can protect your children there by homeschooling. I also realize that we see only a small part of your life on your blog and like all of us you are just busy living life and trying to do the best you can. Keep up the good work!
February 18th, 2008 at 7:43 pm
Just a quick note:
Something it’s often hard for non-homeschoolers to understand is the depth to which “school” and “life” intermingle with this kind of life philosophy.
The common understanding of “schooling” is “doing an activity set aside for the purpose of learning”. I’ve had many people ask me how my mom/family can homeschool since it would involve Mom doing all the teaching; I finally realized that I needed to point out Mom isn’t sitting right there teaching school all day as in a public school setting. Homeschooling isn’t about just bringing school home. It’s about a totally different life and philosophy: and we now have a pretty consistent track-record of becoming upstanding, educated citizens in spite of non-traditional schooling methods.
With homeschooling, education blends in with life so much that we often have a hard time separating and explaining to people how we learn what we learn. There’s always good old bookwork; but there’s also a lot of real-life training. What the Bettendorf kids are learning by running out with their dad and watching their new house being built (and probably helping, when it’s appropriate!) is way more valuable than whatever bookwork they might’ve missed in the few weeks they took off during the move and Jodi’s birth.
As for Cris…don’t make me chuckle! I’m recovering from the flu and laughing hurts!
February 18th, 2008 at 8:32 pm
Katie, you’re welcome. I didn’t intend to be condescending. I was being truthful. I believe it is disappointing and not just to me but to Christ–and that’s what matters. I imagine no one will be disappointed for me to say that I’m outta here. This is the most arrogant, critical, sarcastic, unloving group of “Christians” I believe I have ever witnessed. It’s sad.
February 18th, 2008 at 8:41 pm
Arrogant, critical, sarcastic, unloving group of “Christians”…… it’s unfortunate that you believe that Jen. Is that what your idea of Christianity is? Is this you being “Christ-like”, by squashing everyone else’s opinions and life-experiences? Should we pretend life is all roses and wear blinders? Maybe you are in some way uncomfortable that there are people out there living the reality of FAS/RAD/Homeschooling and you just don’t understand what it is, you just have your own preconceived ideas - that are mistaken I must add. I am very disappointed that people like you feel you need to comment and when someone doesn’t agree with you, flee. Call it what you want, if you don’t want to read, don’t.
February 18th, 2008 at 8:59 pm
Oh my another expert on homeschooling, adoption (fas/rad) and how to keep a blog that reflects the struggles one (ME) go through each day…I see some awesome responses to support your family (thanks they help us too!)…I better not get started on the ugly.
By the way Katie how to you “homeschool” so many weeks of the year? HAHA URCRAZY does not understand being a “life educator” is an everyday thing!
I sincerely do hope “URCRAZY” can actually have an opportunity to view a family Homeschooling.
Thank you Jeff and Katie for showing some of the fun activities you do with your kiddos, they always inspire me!
Blessings, Laura
February 19th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
OK I have to respond!!!! Our “school year” was shaken up in September when our 9 yr was dz with type 1 diabetes. Any parent that has a child with type 1 diabetes knows life is forever changed and school changed also!!! I must tell you we have had a better” school year” and we have done so much less “book stuff”. We love learning about carbs-diet=health, carb to insulin =math so much more! Everyday we teach our children with or without textbooks. Love your blogg. :)
February 20th, 2008 at 10:51 am
ok…I’m biting…couldn’t resist. I just have to say as a mom to ten four adopted three have FAS, I was so excited when I had emailed Katie and she emailed me back and we discovered we both had a child that had peed in a drawer….”because”. Be careful to assume that counseling will help children with FAS…The best thing is to keep them from bad influence because they tend to repeat everything they see…I almost think FAS is scarier than RAD.
Cecelia
February 20th, 2008 at 11:14 am
Cecelia, AMEN!! FAS *is* scarier than RAD. (Jessica was RAD) We had *one* FAS kid and I swore I would never take another!! And then I ended up with THREE!! These kids come with so many issues we couldn’t see the FAS until later. Heck, John was almost 6 and didn’t speak more than 10 words!! And I agree that keeping them away from bad situations is the best we can do. That is why homeschooling is fabulous for these kids.
February 21st, 2008 at 2:58 pm
Am I the only one amazed that Cris’ original comment seems to imply that sheltering your children is a BAD thing? In this society of ours, we should be sheltering our children to protect them…they’ll grow up soon enough and be exposed to the horrors of this world. Let’s allow kids to be innocent children for as long as possible, shall we?
I don’t even know the Bettendorfs except from this blog but from everything I’ve read, I’ve come to admire them a great deal. I can’t believe anyone would come here and make such rude comments!
February 21st, 2008 at 3:15 pm
No, you are right Tara, she is implying that sheltering your children is bad.
February 24th, 2008 at 7:45 am
I’ve been reading Katie’s blog for over a year now and greatly admire this family! I am now a foster parent and have found alot of helpful information and encouragement from her writing about her adopted children and some of the issues they face!
As for homeschooling, my blog is at a homeschoolblogger site and I have to remind myself to write something now and then about school! LOL! The school stuff just happens, it is all the other stuff that I write about - doesn’t mean we don’t do school, it just isn’t interesting enough to write about most of the time! :o)
I tend to just write when it is something big like reading their first book or finishing a math book. Obviously if we were only reading once a month, they wouldn’t have learned to read! And it would be impossible to finish a math book if we only did any math when I blogged about it! Many of us don’t actually blog school very often!
And as for Ana’s comment about ‘parading our children’ I have a homeschool blog and tell about school without showing my children’s faces, real names or any identifying information! Each family has to make a decision about what level of information they are willing and comfortable with sharing via the internet! That doesn’t mean it is a bad thing if someone chooses to. And doesn’t mean that those of us who share our journey are ‘parading’ our families anywhere!!
If you don’t like someone, their blog or what they have to say DON’T COME OVER AND READ IT!!! This is what I do if I find a blog I really don’t agree with, I never have a go at them. Just leave and don’t come back! Simple really!